YOUR RESULT:
Enneagram Type Two
THE SUPPORTIVE HELPER
Why we need Type Twos…
Enneagram Type Twos are generous and have a desire to help others. They are extremely relational and focus on ways to make others feel safe, seen, and comfortable. They have a keen sense for what others need and they cheerfully support those around them.
WHAT DRIVES THE TYPE TWO?
CORE DESIRE
To be loved, appreciated, and needed.
CORE FEAR
Being unworthy of love, rejected, or unhelpful.
HOW DO TYPE TWOS SEE THE WORLD?
WORLD VIEW
The world is filled with people who need support, therefore I have purpose as a helper.
FOCUS
What are the needs of those around me? Am I needed here? Am I well-liked?
SELF-TALK
“It’s not okay to have needs of my own.”
THE VIRTUE AND THE VICE OF THE TYPE ONE
HUMILITY
The ability to accept your needs, ask for help, and receive help cheerfully.
PRIDE
The inability to know your needs, express them, and prioritize them without feeling shame.
What is the Enneagram?
The word Enneagram comes from the Greek words ennea (nine) and gram (points or drawing). It refers to the nine different Enneagram Types, identified as numbers 1-9, and teaches the 9 different ways of being in and seeing the world.
Each number, or personality Type, has unique core motivations that drive specific thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
The insights of the Enneagram are useful for self-development, self-compassion, empathy, relationship building, effective communication, conflict resolution, and improvement of team dynamics.
ARE YOU A HEALTHY TYPE TWO?
Healthy Twos are generous, empathetic, and warm. They are able to discern and communicate their needs, and they are able to set boundaries with how much help they provide others. They are adaptable and give without any strings attached.
Average Twos feel the need to give continuously, fearing that if they do not show up for others, then others will stop loving or needing them altogether. They work hard to be indispensable, often at the cost of caring for themselves.
Unhealthy Twos are resentful that others don’t reciprocate the same level of support and care. They expect others to know what they need without having to ask. They often play the role of the martyr.
AN OVERVIEW OF TYPE TWOS
Type Twos represent the human capacity for generosity, love, and support. The strive to be helpful in all areas of their life. At their best they are empathetic and adaptable. At their worst they are manipulative and insecure.
Twos are driven by shame and a desire to have significance in their relationships. Shame often feels like they are unworthy of love, so Twos have a tendency to overcompensate by being as helpful as possible to others in hopes the shame will go away with all their “helpful” doing. As a result, their shame tends to come across as help that is unwanted, invasive, or intrusive to others.
THINGS THAT FEEL SHAMEFUL TO A TYPE TWO
- Lack of recognition
- Rejection of help or ideas
- People who don’t like them
- Lack of appreication
Type Twos communicate in a ways that are kind, optimistic and supportive.. Their propensity for relationships makes them great team managers. When they are grounded, they are both kind and honest with their support of others.
Type Twos take a positive approach to conflict. They want to overcome the issue quickly and ensure the relationship stays in tact in the process. They may use flattery or charm to ensure the other person still likes them when giving difficult feedback.
PRACTICE SAYING “NO”
It is particularly challenging for you to know what is yours to do and what is not. Without taking a moment to ask yourself, “Should I do this?” you have a tendency to say yes to everything, leading to extreme burnout or exhaustion. Start practicing saying “no” in a way that is comfortable for you. Try using these scripts:
“Thank you for thinking of me, but I am not available to do that.”
“Maybe next time!”
“No, thank you!”