YOUR RESULT:
Enneagram Type Nine
THE HARMONIZING PEACEMAKER
Why we need Type Nines…
Enneagram Type Nines are patient, easy-going, and amiable. They are focused on maintaining internal peace of mind and keeping the peace wherever they go. They desire to be comfortable and kind and are constantly working to ensure everyone is seen and heard.
WHAT DRIVES THE TYPE NINE?
CORE DESIRE
To have internal peace of mind and external harmony with others.
CORE FEAR
Being in conflict or losing connection with people they care about.
HOW DO TYPE NINES SEE THE WORLD?
WORLD VIEW
The world is a place where my opinions aren’t as strong or important as others.
FOCUS
Is everyone being heard? Is everyone being treated fairly?
SELF-TALK
“It wouldn’t make a difference, and no one would even notice if you weren’t around.”
THE VIRTUE AND THE VICE OF THE TYPE NINE
ACTION
The ability to engage in temporary discomfort for the sake of long-term harmony.
SLOTH
The desire to be completely unaffected by life.
What is the Enneagram?
The word Enneagram comes from the Greek words ennea (nine) and gram (points or drawing). It refers to the nine different Enneagram Types, identified as numbers 1-9, and teaches the 9 different ways of being in and seeing the world.
Each number, or personality Type, has unique core motivations that drive specific thoughts, feelings, and behaviors.
The insights of the Enneagram are useful for self-development, self-compassion, empathy, relationship building, effective communication, conflict resolution, and improvement of team dynamics.
ARE YOU A HEALTHY TYPE NINE?
Healthy Nines are aware of their tendency to fall asleep to their anger, so they spend time intentionally connecting with their anger and letting it have the voice is deserves. They are not thrilled to engage in conflict, but they don’t shy away from it either. They will speak with grace and kindness, while also standing their ground.
Average Nines work so hard to keep the peace and avoid conflict. In their desire to keep the peace with others, they can say “yes” to things they don’t want to do, all the while causing distress internally. They will minimize their feelings or perspective, rationalizing that neither matters much to others, “so why bother sharing?”
Unhealthy Nines are completely asleep to the world. When anger, frustration, or pain shows up the Nine mentally disengages and/or physically removes themself from the cause of discomfortable. Rather than engage with the hardships of life, they go on autopilot and inadvertently numb the joy along with the pain.
AN OVERVIEW OF TYPE NINE
Type Nines represent the human capacity for harmony, kindness, and acceptance. They are amicable, steady, and balanced. At their best, they are patient listeners who can see multiple perspectives and help mediate. At their worst, they are disconnected from their own desires, stubborn, and passive-aggressive.
Nines are driven by a desire for a world where people are kind to one another and have a unique relationship with anger. Nines are often angry, but they are not typically aware of their own anger or the cause of their anger. When something upsets a Nine, they typically think, “It’s not that big of a deal…” even when it is.
THINGS THAT BOTHER NINES:
- Rudeness or pushy people
- Feeling ignored, unimportant, or not being listened to
- Being rushed or nagged
- Confrontation
Type Nines typically communicate in the form of a paragraph. Because they are such good listeners, they communicate multiple perspectives with great detail, which causes the Nine to speak in paragraph form. It is very thorough, but sometimes people can get lost or bored partially through the explanation or story.
Type Nines take a positive to conflict. When they are unhealthy, they hope the conflict will magically go away. When healthy, they can engage in conflict, knowing it will lead to true peace.
DISCOVER WHAT IS YOURS TO DO
Merging comes naturally for you. The beautiful side of merging is that others feel comfortable, accepted, safe, and supported by you. You are a source of peace for others because you don’t make a fuss over much. The shadow side of merging is that you deprive the world of your unique gifts and perspective. It’s easier to merge with others, but finding your purpose is yours. Spend time journaling about the things that bring you joy and purpose. Be mindful of when you list your spouse, boss, or children’s hobbies or goals. The point is to separate what you love from what they love. Once you have your list, start working towards achieving your goals.